Battlefield

Why sometimes in life just when we find that little light in a dark room, it seems to disappear? Why somtimes when we finally find that carton of milk for our cereal.. theres nothing in it? Sometimes after months of having no love in life, months of being hurt by partners who don't truly know the definition of a relationship, months of lies, we find a savior. We find someone who is willing to look past our imperfections, who is willing to come and turn our frown upside down, who is willing to shield us when we are most vulnerable. But we are scared.. we think that it is too good to be true, or that they might've made a mistake in choosing us, so we either put up a fight, or try to rush into things immediately. We don't want to take things at a calm rate, because we are scared of going back to that lonely person who would just sit on the train while a couple is right across from us cuddled up. We fear going back to that lil boy whos biggest fear was being all alone for the rest of life. We don't want to go back to being that lil girl who never experienced the satisfaction of a true signicant "other". We don't have to rush into things, or take a back seat because that person didn't make a mistake. He or she has found something in you that takes their breath away. They have found something in you, that makes you want to sing love songs on a rainy day. They look at you, and don't see the imperfections that you label yourself with, they don't see what everybody else see. They don't see something normal or average, but indeed unique.. Don't be afraid to take this risk, just let it happen... x3

Am I good enough?

Why do many girls have inner problems within themselves because a certain boy didn't tell them they are pretty? Why do they eat more food, so that there butt can look better and so more boys would look at them, like they look at their friends. Why do you cry yourself to sleep because you don't look like that girl on tv who was dancing all up in the Best I ever Had video. Why do you cry yourself to sleep just because it is taking longer for you to develop than your other friends. Why do you pop out your chest when that certain boy come around? Why do you starve yourself just because none of your friends are chubby, and they get all the attention in school? No matter how much a boy tell you look good or tell you he like the way you look, it still wont help you, unless you realize for yourself that you are gorgeous and that you were fearfully made in God image and likeness. That you are unique and special, and if no boy or girl can appreciate that then that is not your problem, but indeed theirs. It is not good to depend on someone to make you happy because when they leave how will you feel about yourself? You need to develop a love for yourself within. You must stop depending on boys to make you happy. You must stop depending on significant others in general, to make you happy. You must build up your character and realize that you are you and nobody can be like you and that is the BEST THING ABOUT YOU. And at the end of the day if a boy don't like you for who are, then thats his business, and that his problem. Don't ever alter yourself for anybody becaue their opinion doesn't matter. How will you altering yourself and making somebody like you, make you happy? They are falling for a false image, which is not really you. Ladies please stop depending on significant others to make you happy, because that is only momentarily happiness. It will go away when that person go away. I'm not saying I'm perect at this, but I am indeed trying...x3

Forgivness

This blog isnt about anybody in particular, just different thoughts in my head. Sometimes we hold on too many things. We choose to hold grudges and malice in our hearts for things that people have done to us. Sometimes we have legitimate reasons for holding these grudges, but other times it can be little things such as a meaningless arguement. I admit that no one is perfect and holding grudges is sometimes the most logically accurate thing to do when that bf cheated on you for the last time, when that best friend told your business for the last time, when your step father molested you for the last time, and/or when you was misused and abused for the last time. But holding grudges hold us back in life if we truly want to admit or not. When we cant forgive that girlfriend for sleeping with your bestfriend, you learn to adapt trust issues for everybody. You never trust another girl with your heart, or another person with a friendship. You start to mistreat girls because you was mistreated when all you wanted was true love. When all you wanted was companionship. You will never let another homeboi get too close to you because you think that at the snap of a finger he will violate you. I don't care what anybody say talkin about he dead to me, or she dead to me, its not true unless you forgive. Because if you continue to hold this person in your heart, they will continue to influence many of your decisions in life. Forgiviness doesn't mean being all smiley and up in that person face or even banging with that person again, it just means you are releasing them from all the anger that you hold against them. That is the only true time that you can honestly move on with your life is when you forgive. Forgive those who hurt you intentionally and unintentionally. Forgive that girlfriend in the past who has hurt you. Forgive that ex bff who had betrayed you. Move on..

Married young by *Leshauna*

Getting Married at a young Age

How many of you guys believe that the younger you get married shorter the
marriage will last?
This issue has come up with alot of young people I talk to. I think marriage is
marriage weather
or not it happens at young age.


i'm havinq hard time doinq this HELP!!!!

Happiness through the pain by ^Leticia^

Is it possible to love someone after being hurt?...
Hmm, I know a lot of people tend to feel like it’s the end of the world because the person they thought was “the one” really wasn’t and because they made that person their everything..once they are gone they feel like there is nothing left..also people tend to shut down after being heartbroken and say they will never love again..but there is a way to love somebody after being terribly hurt. I would know because ive been thru a situation like this one and I have loved after. Things people like me go thru are thinking that WE aren’t good enough for anyone to love us again, or what did WE do wrong or thinking we wont be able to trust anyone with our hearts ever again. In reality the person who was foolish enough to let us go aren’t good enough for us and because they hurt us they were never ever worth the enormous value we made them. Depending on how this person hurt you, u can make a choice to stay their friend or to let them go and never let them in ur life again. Honestly in my opinion someone you loved that much can NEVER be a friend. This is because the feelings are always there whether u left them or they left you or whatever the situation may be..you always need time to heal. Healing is the key to moving on with ur life. Ive made a lot of mistakes in the past but learned that letting go of that person that hurt u more than ever is the best way to try and move on with ur life and leave them behind. If u choose to be there friend it might be best to keep the friendship to a minimum and not be drawn back in to the things that u loved about them so much. [feelings may vary depending on the situation] Another way to try to love someone again is to actually find someone else. Some people tend to jus curl up and lock themselves up and keep to themselves but that wont get u anywhere. When u are thinking about someone else it gets your mind of the past. Trust becomes a big issue in these types of situations as well.

People like me need more than the words “you can trust me” especially after a bad experience. We need to be shown that its okay to trust someone with our heart again because not only is it fragile right now but it always will be because even if we forgive the person that hurt us we will never forget what it is that they did to us and when bad things happen to people its instinct to take precaution so that it doesn’t happen again or if it does happen it isn’t so bad and we are prepared. Trust will take time for ur new partner to gain but if they think u are worth and if they are worth it they will understand ur situation and stand by u until u are able to let them in. If the person just cant understand ur situation well that’s another person u don’t need in ur life. Theres a lot more other things I can say about this but overall don’t be afraid to love again, u will definitely regret it if u happen to let the right person pass u by. Yes you will be scared and yes it will be hard but u have to try and if u do find the right person it will definitely be worth it when you feel true happiness and the person that u once were hurt about doesn’t mean a thing anymore. The rush of the new beginning and life will feel great and anyone whos experienced this or is experiencing this deserves to feel that feeling…Everyone deserves there fairytale ending so go get yours!

Happy Birthday Michael! Love you with all my heart and soul! :D

Driving in Two lanes by ^Chantal^

Having feelins for someone who cannot seem to ever get out of your mind, the way he/she smiles, laugh, cry, speak, or even the lil things they do when they think noone is watching. Loving someone who makes you smile even when you have nothing to smile about. Question is could you love two people at the same time? Is it wrong to love to people with different emotional attachment and expectations. Well it is possible in my eyes. One feeling may be stronger than the other but its always the other person taht cnat seem to go away even thought it's not as srong, but the person is next in line for your heart. I think it's possible to be in love with someone but still have alot of love for someone else. What do you think?

Trying to fit a square into a circle

My friend Bianca onced told me"Never make somebody a priority. when to them you are just an option". Why do we alway try to make that one special person the center of our life? Why do we always put them on some pedestal, when we know good and well that they don't deserve to be there. They have hurt us time and time again, but we can't seem to shake them loose? Why do I continue to fight for something us, when I am the only one fighting? We try to make that special person to be that Mrs. Right or that Mr. Right, when we know that it will never happen. When we know that we are the only ones putting in the effort. We ignore best friends when they tell us to move on. We constantly check their statuses on aim/myspace/facebook just to see if they would mention our name so that we can tell everybody that he/she is changing, that everybody who was telling me to move on was wrong because they are changing. But... that never happen. We sometimes get more hurt when we check their status "aww i luv u 2 boo" "party was crazy got mad numbaz". The pain is like a cancer, it affects every aspect of our live. We can't focus at work, home, or at school. We don't try to talk to anybody else in that way, because we think that our "love" will come around and sweep us off of our feet. We cannot continue to "try to fit a square in a circle" we must move on... We must enter a new season, and find someone who is a perfect match.. x0x0<3