Have you ever gave so much for a person? Have you ever gave so much for a relationship? Have you ever put so much in a relationship not because your partner was doing the same, but you pushed it so that he/she would get the message. In many relationships only one partner is doing the work and the other is not fully into it. Many people jump into these things not knowing that relationships is a two way thing. You must equally give, as you must recieve. I talk to girls who give their all to boys who are cheating, or don't really care about them like. They constantly try to set up little dates, or little ways to hang out, but the boy bails everytime. I also talk to some boys who try everything to please their girl. They buy them gifts, stay happy so that they can be happy, or even slip in an extra I love you after every goodbye. But the boy doesn't get nothing in return, he doesn't get back the same effort. In some cases, it is just a sense of miscommunication. The partner who is not putting in much work, feels like they are doing everything right until the point when they are comfronted. In other cases, it is the definition of a true relationship that is confused between the boyfriend and girlfriend. Often only one side knows what truly goes into a relationship, while the other side doesn't truly know, or doesn't want to give so much into it. They are still scarred from their last relationship, where they put so much time and energy, then in the long run they ended up being heart broken. . PLEASE LEAVE COMMENTz. diz is a hard topic
Woooow I relate to this both ways SMH.... Sometimes I feel like I'm doing a lot in a relationshiop n my man isn't doing Sh*t... Or sometimes He would say he loves me n say sweet stuff here n there... N just give a face like "Ehh w/e..Lets talk about something else." But I like " One side Relationship" tho. =)
ReplyDeletealrite...hmm this is a deep one..one sided realationships..hmm ive been in one sided relationships b4 when i was the person putting in all the work and the other person wasnt doing as much..wen u love sumbody u wanna b around them most or all the time and u do things that will make them happy becus once they r happy more than likely u r happy too..on the other hand the person who isnt puttin in as much work tends to jus sit bac and have this laidback type of attitude which is not kool becus the person giving wants jus as much as u r recieving from them..an example of a relationship i was in was that i was dating this guy over the summer and he had a job and so did i but i wud still try to make plans with him...he on the other hand always had sumthin to do..nd on saturdays wen i tried to see him he wud tell me he had sumthin to do wen he did nuthin but sit at home all day on aim...which reali pissed me off..relationships can get reali boring wen all u do is talk to the person...u also need to see them and have sum type of physical contact...hehe yes i did in on ur blog michael i said it!...but anywayz the person puttin in more can start to feel neglected and thats wen problems occur in the relationship..if u gona b in a relationship u have to fulfill all the roles of being the boyfriend or gurlfriend not jus sum and think its gona work it cus more than likely it wont..and if anyone starts to feel like they r in a one sided relationship and confront their partner and they dont understand they shud jus end the relationship becus its a waste of time and they wud deserve sumbody who will love them and portray their love jus as much as they do for them and any one who isnt really ready for commitment shouldnt date sumone who is ready for commitment cus in the long run sumone will end up hurt..love is just a serious thing..so u shud pick and choose wisely and b4 goin out wit sumone u shud become their friend so u can learn their ways and kno if they r right for u instead of jumping into sumthin u dont kno anything about...i feel like i went off topic a lil bit but o well lmao :)
ReplyDeleteTHIS IS SO TRU LOLZ....MOST TIMES RELATIONSHIPS ARE ONE SIDED....IT ALSO GOES WITH THE BALANCE OF FEELINGS...THE PERSON WHO HAS MORE FEELINGS TEND TO SHOW MORE AFFECTION OR TO WANT TO GIVE MORE.....THE PERSON WHO TENDS TO BE NONCHALANT ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP IS USUALLY THE PERSON WHO LACKS MORE EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT OR CONNECTION....THE LACK OF CONNECTION,CONTACT OR EFFORT IS WHAT TENDS TO LEAD TO THE CONFRONTATION
ReplyDeleteI'VE BEEN IN RELATIONSHIPS WHERE I'VE PUT IN MORE EFFORT AS A RESULT OF DEEPER FEELINGS...I'VE ALSO BEEN IN RELATIONSHIPS WHERE THINGS WEREN'T FEELING RIGHT OR CONNECTED AND I LEFT IT TO BE ONE-SIDED BECAUSE OF THE LACK OF CONNECTION I WAS FEELING...ONE SIDED RELATIONSHIPS HAVE TO DO WITH EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT OR THE FEELINGS ONE PERSON HAVE FOR ANOTHER...AND NATURALLY WHEN A PERSON HAS STRONG FEELINGS IT TENDS TO COME OUT SO UNLESS THERE IS A BALANCE IN FEELINGS BETWEEN THE TWO PEOPLE THERE WILL BE A "ONE SIDED RELATIONSHIP"
yeah good stuff
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ReplyDeleteGood God michael you speak the truth. I think at some point all relationships feel one-sided but to BE in a one sided relationship is a lonely thing. I haven't been in one. But I've felt alone in a relationship. The key is giving your all in a relationship so that you either win the heart of your partner or leave knowing that you've tried your hardest. The best advice and the most important thing is DO NOT GIVE UP. It brings an overwhelming sense of empty-ness. That's a terrible feeling. And the way I love..I don't EVER want a one-sided relationship....damn i really can't talk about this. But keep up the work michael. you're totally wicked awesome.
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ReplyDeleteAhh man I been through a few one sided relationshipz..i wud give ma all but it seem like the other wasn’t.. I mean I tried so hard 2 make the otha happi even if I wasn’t….i mean love can hve u do sum strange thingz….i felt like I was taken out of ma element n doing thingz I wudnt normally do jus 2 make them happi..but wat hurted the most wen dey wudnt even lift a foot forward 2 help out wit the relationshipz…wen in a relationship we make the commitment 2 b 2gether..so why in da end u feel so left alone…its takez 2 ppl 2 make the relationship werk.. if there is onli 1 person tryin..it mite b hard but we gotta face the fact that itz really not meant 2 b
ReplyDeleteTHIS IS SO True CANT EVeN say No More It says it all
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