Trusting a partner

Alot of times when a significant other hurts their partner or breaks up with them, they are shattered, they beome depressed, and don't know what to do with themselves. I view trust as a mountain. The more trust you instill in a person, the higher you go up this mountain. Being higher up the mountain, or putting more trust in a person doesn't mean that your secure in your life, or that they wont break your trust. It just means your higher up, and have more trust in somebody. And when your higher up, that makes it easier to fall, and when you have more trust in a person. it makes it harder to forgive and recover from the hurt. So when a person breaks your trust, it hurts so bad, because you are so high up on this mountain. It is a long drop and it hurts. In life, I learned to never trust somebody fully, but I should hold a piece of myself back. Trusting a girlfriend/boyfriend is so easy when you never fell before, but when you have suffered heart breaks it is hard trying to get back to the top of the mountain because you know what will happen if you get too high. Often in relationships partners put alot of trust in each other not because they deserve it, but it is because where they want them to be. They put trust in them because they don't want to believe that this person can hurt them even though all the odds are against them. Putting trust in somebody hurts, but holding back yourself from trusting somebody also hurts. It causes pain to know that yu are scared to trust somebody just because a past boyfriend has hurt you so bad that you are scared. Everytime he/she tells you that they are just hanging out with their opposite sex friends, you become scared because you know that your last lover cheated on you with your own friend. Trust is a severe thing, but falling is even more severe..